The Wilderness in You

The Wilderness in You

“There is a wildness in you.
It waits patiently beneath the surface,
calling softly when the world grows quiet.
Do not tame it.
It knows the way home.”
— Mia Hollow

There’s a place inside you where the rules don’t matter. Where everything feels free, unburdened, and alive.

I know this place because I’ve lived it. I spent a decade working on a feature film I wrote and directed. Ten years immersed in that struggle—broken, overwhelmed, and pushed beyond my limits. But I finished.

It wasn’t just about the film. It was about listening to that call, pushing past what I thought I was capable of, and uncovering something deeper. I learned how to hear the wildness within—the part of us that resists fitting into boxes and doesn’t bend to convention.

You’ve Been Taught to Tame It

You’ve been there too, in those moments when the mask slips and the polite edges of you fall away.

It’s the part of you that laughs too loud, loves too recklessly, wants too much.

It’s wild there.

Not chaotic, but vast. Not dangerous, but unyielding. It doesn’t bend for deadlines or small talk or the story you tell yourself about who you’re supposed to be.

It’s the part of you that refuses to settle.

And somewhere along the way, they told you to tame it.

They told you to suppress it, shape it, make it fit into the life you were given. So you did. You wore the clothes, spoke the words, walked the line. You became “good,” but at the cost of something essential inside you.

But the wilderness doesn’t disappear. It waits.

Do You Feel It?

That restlessness. The ache that rises in quiet moments. It’s the part of you that sees a horizon and thinks, “What’s beyond it?”

Not because something’s wrong, but because you know there’s more—something untapped, unknown. And it’s not waiting for the perfect time. It’s here now.

What’s It Trying to Tell You?

When the ache arises, ask yourself:

  • What have I been ignoring?
    The ache might point you to neglected dreams, suppressed feelings, or passions you’ve put on hold.

  • What feels just out of reach?
    Maybe it’s a deeper connection, a creative pursuit, or simply more freedom in your day-to-day life.

  • What would it mean to listen?
    Following the ache doesn’t have to mean grand, sweeping changes. Sometimes it’s just about making room for more honesty, more courage, more of what feels alive.

Don’t Run—Get Curious
We’ve been taught to fear discomfort, to label longing as a problem that needs solving. But what if, instead of running from that ache, you sat with it? What if you gave it your full attention, even for a moment?

I’ve died a hundred times trying to ignore it—the ache that whispers beneath everything I do. It’s that gnawing, persistent call that nothing else can drown out. The world tells me to ignore it, but each time I try, it breaks me. Not all at once, but little by little, until I’m forced to listen.

The Work that Matters

Interior work isn’t about fixing. It’s about realizing that the impossible thing you thought you couldn’t do is intimately tied to the person you’re becoming—and they need each other.

The question is, are you willing to ignore the “No Trespassing” signs and enter the wilderness anyway?

I spent a decade in my own struggle, pushing against what I thought was impossible. When I started making that movie, I couldn’t have known it would lead me here, guiding others through their own untapped potential. But that journey gave birth to the version of me I needed for what was to come.

As Mia Hollow says:

“Every now and then, you will feel a dull ache in your soul.
A gentle humming around your heart.
A longing for something without a name.
If I ever told you to obey anything, this would be it.”

What’s Next?

This is the work that excites me. It’s where the magic happens.

If you’re tired of living within the lines, if you’re ready to step into the unknown and uncover what’s been waiting in you all along, here’s how to start:

  • Embrace the discomfort: It’s in the challenge where transformation happens.

  • Trust the process: The way forward won’t always be clear, but you have everything you need to find your way.

  • Let go of the “shoulds”: The only rules are the ones you create.

  • Commit to listening: The answers aren’t out there. They’re inside you, waiting to be uncovered.

Are you ready to enter your wilderness?

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